WHAT HAPPENED TO DATING?????
For those of us that are married, and have been for a while, do you remember when you were dating?? Whether it was dating different guys, or just dating one guy before you 'went steady', that 'dating scene' seems to be a lost art today.
My daughters, 17 and 20, are in the dating years. Now, I am not so old that I can't remember those days from my youth. But what I remember, (and very fondly I might add), and what happens today are two totally different scenes.
The first time I would go out with a guy, we would 'go out on a date'. Simple, right?? You might 'date' him a few times, which would be called 'dating him' or 'seeing someone'. If you mutually decided to be exclusive, you were 'going steady' or 'an item'. The guys actually asked the girls to 'go steady' and usually gave them their high school ring or college pin (also known as being pinned' in my Mom's day) to wear.
Today, there isn't much 'dating' going on. They 'hook up'. This has two meanings. With the younger crowd, it means 'dating'. With the college age it means meeting someone and that night 'doing it'-sex. They don't seem to date a few different people-just one. But what gets my gall is the actual 'dates'. There aren't many, if at all. They hang out at each others homes, watch movies, play pool and talk--that's it. Very rarely do they actually go anywhere. Whatever happened to bowling, miniature golf, the movies, a nice dinner, Waterford Speedbowl, the beach, park or 6 Flags??? My kids go to these places--BECAUSE I TAKE THEM!!! My girls have done a few of these things with their boyfriends, but I am speaking in general terms. I have watched and listened to my girls' friends and heard most of this.
Back in my day (which was much more liberal than my Moms) girls that 'did it' early in a relaltionship or as a one night stand were considered 'loose', a 'tramp' or a slut. Today this is the norm. Ever heard of the term 'friends with benefits'??? Want to hazzard a guess as to what this means?? You guessed it!! Being a friend to someone and having sex with them because there is no one else in your life right now!! I DON'T THINK SO!!! Another "big thing" to do early in the relaltionship is a "BJ". I am NOT going to explain that--just guess. The girls will do this before they have 'normal' sex with a guy!! There were a couple of kids that were caught at the high school for doing this in the stairway!! Don't we teach safe sex?? Don't these kids learn anything?? I have repeatedly talked to my girls about this--even to the point of asking them each week if they have had sex with their boyfriend. I am very open with my girls. I am constantly telling them about AIDS and diseases and asking them to be careful. So far, I have been lucky--they are good girls who are listening to me.
To all you parents of young kids and pre-teens, watch out--and listen to what your kids say to their friends. It's a real eye-opening experience!!
Have a great day, and stay safe.
Me
My daughters, 17 and 20, are in the dating years. Now, I am not so old that I can't remember those days from my youth. But what I remember, (and very fondly I might add), and what happens today are two totally different scenes.
The first time I would go out with a guy, we would 'go out on a date'. Simple, right?? You might 'date' him a few times, which would be called 'dating him' or 'seeing someone'. If you mutually decided to be exclusive, you were 'going steady' or 'an item'. The guys actually asked the girls to 'go steady' and usually gave them their high school ring or college pin (also known as being pinned' in my Mom's day) to wear.
Today, there isn't much 'dating' going on. They 'hook up'. This has two meanings. With the younger crowd, it means 'dating'. With the college age it means meeting someone and that night 'doing it'-sex. They don't seem to date a few different people-just one. But what gets my gall is the actual 'dates'. There aren't many, if at all. They hang out at each others homes, watch movies, play pool and talk--that's it. Very rarely do they actually go anywhere. Whatever happened to bowling, miniature golf, the movies, a nice dinner, Waterford Speedbowl, the beach, park or 6 Flags??? My kids go to these places--BECAUSE I TAKE THEM!!! My girls have done a few of these things with their boyfriends, but I am speaking in general terms. I have watched and listened to my girls' friends and heard most of this.
Back in my day (which was much more liberal than my Moms) girls that 'did it' early in a relaltionship or as a one night stand were considered 'loose', a 'tramp' or a slut. Today this is the norm. Ever heard of the term 'friends with benefits'??? Want to hazzard a guess as to what this means?? You guessed it!! Being a friend to someone and having sex with them because there is no one else in your life right now!! I DON'T THINK SO!!! Another "big thing" to do early in the relaltionship is a "BJ". I am NOT going to explain that--just guess. The girls will do this before they have 'normal' sex with a guy!! There were a couple of kids that were caught at the high school for doing this in the stairway!! Don't we teach safe sex?? Don't these kids learn anything?? I have repeatedly talked to my girls about this--even to the point of asking them each week if they have had sex with their boyfriend. I am very open with my girls. I am constantly telling them about AIDS and diseases and asking them to be careful. So far, I have been lucky--they are good girls who are listening to me.
To all you parents of young kids and pre-teens, watch out--and listen to what your kids say to their friends. It's a real eye-opening experience!!
Have a great day, and stay safe.
Me
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